Also, how comfortable I am in a relationship is top priority, not educating my partner about race. Why the fuck would I want to go home and educate them about that when I deal with racist, classist pricks all day?
This is one of the reasons I’m not inclined to be with white people romantically. I will fight anyone that says that poc can’t/shouldn’t have white partners because it’s no one’s place to dictate that. But personally, I want to come home to someone that I can lay my day’s burden down with and vice versa without having to have an academic discussion of the historical & psychological explanations of why it sucked. And also know that when I say “it sucked” I don’t have to lay it all out, I don’t have to deal with a blank or confused look, I don’t have to defend why I feel like it sucked - because they know and understand exactly why it sucked from the first words out of my mouth. I want someone I feel safe with. And I want someone I don’t feel tokenized, fetishized, or patronized by.
WORD. dating a white person was draining.
Yes. All of these things. Oh god the one time I told my white best friend I wanted a nice Native dude I didn’t have to educate she got so offended. You’d have thought I had personally insulted her.
